Isn't it curious how we realize the same simple things about ourselves over and over (and over again) but that each time it seems like an ah-ha moment?For example, realizing each time how calm you feel after a walk in the woods, or how happy you are every time you put clean sheets on the bed... I keep learning again and again that I draw to understand. If you know me this must sound ridiculous. You would probably think that drawing to understand would be in the first few lines of my internal dialogue. It is not.
I am a committed doodler and focused note-taker. These skills grew out of simple strategies to capture and control my busy thoughts during long meetings and training sessions. Drawing seemed like a professionally acceptable strategy, rather than knitting, to keep my hands occupied.
I struggle with acceptance. I thought for a long time that it was because I was just not satisfied with the status-quo and that my challenging of this was a positive driving force. I only believe half of that story now. Sure – I am motivated for innovation and forward progress. I have now moved more into honest acceptance that the context of any given situation is the process.Consideration is a more natural place for me. Being ready to act in a helpful fashion to forward a partnership is an easy direction for me. The upside to this is that I make a lot of small bets and that provides great data to inform where to make bigger bets. The downside of this is that I may be acting in the wrong direction; it’s a bit of a risk, but one that I am happy to take.
I wonder? BAM, Done! Easy-peezy – being curious is my superpower. I could stay there all day.
And, gentleness? Well that as has been the big stretch for the past 18 months. My internal dialogue is fierce and, to be completely honest, not very gentle. I’ve been making some headway in my thinking but its the bolder that needs to be pushed up the hill until I am rolling it along a flat path. I will get there. I can do hard things.
So where am I going with grace, integrity, humility, fairness and curiosity? I’ve used them as 5 reflective questions to consider in my day-to-day brokering role.
What are your reflective leadership questions for this year? Do you always use the same ones or do you mix it up along the way. Would you be willing to share them? I am quite curious!
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